speeches are becoming more popular by the year
and good, well thought out and delivered speeches
can enhance a wedding reception.
were traditionally held after the meal, but on
many occasions nowadays, the speeches are held
before the meal. Personally I prefer after the
meal; there is nothing worse than guests sitting
down at the table well after their normal lunchtime
and then having to listen to a load of speeches.
after having a nice meal and a few drinks, guests
will look forward to a bit of entertainment in
the form of the speeches and be far more receptive.
are 3 main wedding speeches, in traditional order,
the Father of the Bride, or whoever may be giving
the Bride away in his absence; the Groom and of
course the Best man.
However, it is quite permissible for others to
speak, including the Father of the Groom, the
Chief Bridesmaid, or even the Bride herself.
would be ideal if there are to be other speakers
than the 3 main ones, if an order is decided before
the wedding and content to be discussed, to avoid
too many people covering the same ground.
for the content of the speeches. The Father of
the Bride speech and the Groom’s speech
should be welcoming and contain kind and sincere
comments; but humour is always a welcome addition
to any speech.
The Father of the Bride’s speech should
contain a toast to the Bride and Groom; and the
Groom’s a toast to the Bridesmaids.
Best man’s speech is of course the most
eagerly awaited; and a gentle roast of the Groom
is very acceptable. However, what is not acceptable
is humiliating the Groom in front of the guests
and the Bride’s family; vulgarity; and mention
of previous relationships. It is possible to be
very funny without using any of these and the
speech will receive far more accolades if they
are avoided. The Best man’s speech will
be delivered to a family audience and must not
be an extension of the Stag night.
Best man’s only specific duties are to respond
on behalf of the Bridesmaids and thank the hosts
on behalf of the guests; but he may make his toast
to the Bride and Groom if he wishes.
there is a lot of help available on the Internet
concerning speeches. There are people who will
write your speech for you; and many websites market
quite cheap speech template packages.
only thing to be careful of is to make sure that
the documents are correct for the country that
you live in; as traditions vary somewhat, especially
on opposite sides of the Atlantic.
( For more information
on Malcolm Perkins,
the expert author of this
article visit: aspeech.co.uk